DEC. Retreat:

I arrived late yesterday thinking that I was going to be leaving still debating whether or not I should stay in What’s The Story? but typing this now I’ve realized that I need to continue.

It’s not like I don’t want to be in What’s The Story? it’s just that if I’m not in it then I know I’ll regret it.

Whether the outcome is an amazing documentary or the world deciding to eat less dairy doesn’t matter right now. Sure, that’s an ideal result, but what I care about is whether or not I change. It’s selfish but it’s also sacrificing in a way. I have come to the conclusion that whatever I think is right or just or the way things should be isn’t at all correct. I’m used to believing what I know or infer about the world through my eyes, but after yesterday and really thinking about it today it doesn’t make sense.

Why believe anything if believing is accepting something that is true, or feeling like it is? Wouldn’t it make sense to know a fact and trust that fact is right than base what is right depending on what you feel is right? I can’t answer that, and I don’t think anyone who’s human can answer that because if one were to answer that someone would disagree as is human nature to do so.

Which brings me to the TedTalk(click link to watch). It was super insightful and made me reconsider about everything I knew. Mainly because what I thought was morally fair really was my bias and misunderstanding that people who disagreed with me just didn’t know anything. That’s not fair though so I was also being a hypocrite on top of wrong.

I know I keep saying “I’m wrong, I’m wrong, I’m really wrong…” But I’m also not a bad person for being wrong. I think a lot of people fear that disbelief to crawl up their throats and whisper “Oh my God, what if I am in the wrong?” makes them turn a blind eye to what’s happening. All we want to do in reply to their seemingly comical ignorance of our thinking is yell, “OF COURSE YOU’RE WRONG YOU DIMWIT! How could you not see that!” And that’s when you’ve already lost them because now they’re feeling attacked and instead of listening they’re focusing on hurting you back by continuing to act that way. That argument is adverse in of itself.

It’s all about the gold rule again, just treat others the way you want to be treated.

Anyways, so you can’t go about telling people they’re wrong because then you can’t see you also could be wrong. You want to ask yourself constantly “Why do they see it that way?” Yeah, I’ve asked people that many times and it’s hard to understand their logic when you’re so absorbed by your own but I’m sure if I keep doing it one day I’ll feel more at peace with opposing opinions. One day.

Which reminds me, I kind of feel like saying “Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion.” is a cop out. Yes, people are, but then you’re just shooing away their ideas in favor of your own…

Person: “I think eating meat is okay, I mean, like, you need protein to survive.” Person frowns to Me and Me can already see their blank stare coming across as ignorance in need of desperate redirection.

Me: “Well, yes, protein is important but there are healthier ways to obtain it if you know what to look for. Like beans and nuts.” Me retorted that statement with another statement. Me realizes they’re still frowning and about to say something even more ridiculous and decides to add, “Meat is also bad for you, too.” In retrospect Me should’ve kept quiet.

Person: “How is meat bad for you?”

Me: “Red meat irritates your colon and fish contains mercury, for example.” Me has explained their thinking through facts, once again.

Person: “But chicken and lean beef is good for you, and what about the omega-3 fatty acids in fish?” Person is getting more confused.

Me: Sighs and tried again, but ultimately feels like their words are falling on deaf ears. “Chicken and lean beef are also kept in horrible conditions in farms and you can get omega-3’s from avocados and seeds.” Me finishes in exasperation. Person’s frown deepens.

Person: “What do you mean ‘horrible conditions’?” Person is now starting to get upset. Finally, Me thinks.

Me: “Factory farm animals are kept in disgusting places in mass crowding because the demand for them is too big to keep them in quality, large, open spaces. This also means that disease can spread quicker and therefore the farmers give them antibiotics which translates to your dinner meal.” Person appears thoroughly grossed out and whispers “Oh my God”. Me is pleased to see them enlightened.

Person: “You’re just saying that because you’re vegan!” Me is startled by Person’s reaction. Didn’t I get through to them?

Me: “No, I was just telling you the facts.” Me is getting annoyed. Why can’t they see the truth? Person turns away from Me.

Person: “I don’t believe you.” Person leaves in a fit of huffs. How dare Me say they are a bad person?

Me leaves in the opposite direction as well, feeling even more justified and realizing the world is just full of idiots who don’t know any better.

Nothing is resolved by spewing facts at each other when clearly the two will end up angry and their bias solidified because no one understands them. I find this, at least, very true. In my own experience and in others’ too. We try to prove our point through assumed “truths” even though nothing is really said, just repeated. Over and over again. Until finally the argument ends in huffs and puffs when really they both probably went in thinking it was going to be a logical discussion of their side.

I can’t really say exactly what the answer to making other people understand, but its definitely not forcing your opinion on them.

Keira Thorpe

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